Which Diet Is Best?

An age-old question that most women, and some men, have spent years trying to figure out. Low carb, no carb, low-fat, high fat, high protein, and an abundance of celebrity endorsed and high-profile chef designed diets have filled magazines since the good old Women’s Monthly, became the Weekly. It’s a question that you could spend the rest of your life trying to answer, but the truth is, there is no “best diet”. What works for your best friend, or partner, is not necessarily going to work for you, and vice versa.

I hear a collective sigh of relief…why? Cos for those who have tried diet after diet after diet, yet have found none of them to work, were beginning to think they were destined to be overweight and unhealthy for the rest of their lives. It’s not true, there is always a way, but you do have to look at your lifestyle as a whole. If someone came to me and said they’d “tried everything” and still couldn’t lose weight, and I had a “one diet fits all” solution, what would that say about me? It would say that i was closed-minded, ill educated and id be doing an injustice to myself, my business and my clients.

When someone asks for help, you need to see this person, as they are, for the first time and not slot them into a general category with a generalised diet. People come to you as meat eaters and vegans, from different religions and cultural backgrounds, some with medical issues and allergies and some who just don’t like the taste of certain foods. You have to be able to cater to every type of person and adjust nutrition advice to suit.

So when you make a decision to try a fad diet like the “high fat, no carb”, or the “soup diet” or the plan advertised by your favourite celebrity foodies, you need to know, that it just might not work, or, it will work, but as soon as you come off it, you’ll put the weight back on. The latter happens when you deprive yourself of a certain macro (fats, protein, carbs) or when the calorie count is so low, that your body holds onto everything when you start feeding it again.

The best thing you can do for your body is to feed it well and in a balanced way. If you check out the fad diets, you’ll see that the idea behind the loss of weight, is that you cut something important out and that you burn more calories than you digest. Doesnt matter what you do, if you are in a calorie deficit, you’re going to lose weight. What you cut out, however, is going to make you crave that exact thing….so dont cut anything out.

Balance. Is. Key.

Wholefoods are always best, but in saying that, there are people who are allergic to grains, or who hate vegetables or who refuse to drink water. So you have to work around it. Be open-minded and educated in the ways of substitution. It’s no good telling a 40-year-old man who hasn’t eaten vegetables since he was 5, that he “must” eat vegetables or he’s never going to lose weight and be healthy. For one, it’s not true, and secondly, he’s going to go find someone who can help him, cos you clearly are not open to something different.

Each client is a challenge for many reasons. You’re success is in being able to break down the clients lifestyle and intricacies and improvise a plan that will assist them to reach their goals. If you’re reading this and want to figure it out yourself without paying out more money to a coach or online fad, my suggestions would be this. Dont toss out what you love. Dont consume what you hate. Drink water, add lemon or lime if you have to. Eat as many green veggies as you like. Stay away from processed foods as much as possible and don’t eliminate anything. There are ways to still have your chocolate, a beer and mums caramel dumplings…just do it in moderation and you’ll find in no time, your mind will start telling you when you should and shouldnt indulge. If you are someone who needs help to find what works, find yourself a nutrition coach. One who is open-minded and not about to manipulate you into his/her “one size fits all” mould. There are many of us out there, waiting to help you out. Good luck 🙂



You’ve Lead The Horse, Now What?

You know the saying, im not going to repeat it, but how bloody frustrating is it when you get the friggen horse to the water and it wont drink, i mean, it wont even dip its bloody toes in, check out it’s reflection or skip a stone. It just digs its heels in and stands there. So i just stand there. Why? Cos i handed you the damn tools, the training, information, advice…im sure as hell not going to bring the water to your lips or assist you to bend to the awesomeness that awaits. Fuck that, and you, i got too much stuff to do to waste my time on people who wont help themselves!

Time. It’s so valuable, and yet people expect you to waste yours, on them. Why would i do that? My time is better spent working with people who want to reach their goals. I mean, everyone says they want to do this, do that, but when it comes down to it, what they really want, is not your help, but for you to actually reach their goals for them. I’m sorry, but if i want you to reach  your goals, be they fitness, nutrition, weight loss or business related, more than you want to reach them, then we have a problem. There was a time i would have done it tho. Anything to be able to say, “We did it!”….but not anymore. I refuse to put time and effort into people who wont do the same.

Lisa Grossman said, “I will help you with your business.” Amen Sistah!!!!! The middle word there is YOU. It’s your goal, your dream, your business etc. I will help you, but you got to step up, do the work, make the changes and bring the desire, ambition and motivation, cos i cannot get you across the line. If i did still drag people across the line, id be doing an injustice to those people who have the belief in themselves, who have the drive and the initiative to take what i know, what i can teach them, and get themselves across that line. Again, my TIME is valuable. Time freedom does not mean i want time to throw into patting the backs of others, it means i want the time to do the things i want to do, whatever they are, it doesn’t matter, cos it’s MY time.

If you want to lose weight, i can help you. If you want to start your own wellness business, i can help you. If you want to change your life around and be happy and healthier, i can help you. I have the time for you, if you have the time for me. If you are prepared to listen, to do what i tell you, to follow plans, train, be coachable and literally just shut the hell up and do as i do, you will reach your goals. You can do anything in this life you set your mind to, if you believe in yourself. I can HELP, but i WILL NOT do.

If you do not reach the goals you set yourself, it’s on you. You didn’t try hard enough. You didn’t follow directions, you didn’t listen, you thought you knew better, you continued to eat crap and you continue to make excuses and lay blame at the feet of others. Do not blame me. I wanted it for you, i gave you the tools, you didn’t use them. Your fault. If your goal or dream or desire is not important to you, then it’s not important to me. I’m not paying your bills or having to carry your weight around, so i simply don’t care. NEXT!!

I can deal with a lack of training, of knowledge, skills, even self belief to a point, cos i can fix those. I have those, and i can offer them to you, but i cannot deal with a lack of desire, of ambition, motivation and hunger. That is all on your head. Unless you have the latter, there’s no point in us working together. I don’t have the time for you. If you have the former, and need help, to lose weight, work from home, improve your nutrition or start an exercise program, let’s chat.